Video: Ten Reasons Why I Love Being A Mom. Happy Mother’s Day!

Ten Reasons Why I Love Being A Mom. Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy mother’s day to all the beautiful moms out there!

While there are countless reasons why being a mom is incredible, these are ten of my favorites. More about motherhood than about blindness, this video goes out to all you beautiful moms out there. Keep doing what you’re doing, because you, my lovelies, kick some major awesome woman butt.

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Video: Ten Things I Can’t Conceptualize

Let’s face it. As a blind individual, there are just some things I cannot conceptualize. Here are ten of them!

My Treasures, more written posts are on their way. Please continue to bear with me; things are rough right now and I’m barely keeping up as it is.

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Ten Random Facts About Blind Parenting

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Hello there, my Treasures. While I continue to go through my whirlwind, see this post for clarification if you’re confused, I thought I would do a fun little post where I toss out ten random facts about blind parenting. I’ve a more serious one coming soon. But for now, let’s do this.

Fact One: Blind women do have babies with sighted men,

“Do you have a boyfriend?”

“I do.”

“Oh, that’s nice. Is he also blind?”

Facepalm. No. He’s not.

Novel concept, eh? It is true though. Blind people don’t just date blind people and blind parents are not always one half of a blind duo. Most blind people I know date, marry and have children with sighted partners, in fact.

If you wouldn’t automatically assume Irish people only marry other Irish people or Asians only marry other Asians, please don’t assume blind people can or would only marry and build a family with other blind people.

Fact Two: Walking over Legos barefoot hurts just as much for blind parents as it does for sighted parents.

I might even go so far as to pull rank and say it hurts us more. Why? Because we can’t see them all over the floor; you sighties get a 2.5 second visual warning. We blindies prance happily across the floor, expecting to feel floor, but instead end up doing a Godzilla routine over Ouchville and its surrounding farmlands.

Sighties, don’t believe me? If you live in a winter-prone part of the world, next time your child strews their Legos all over the floor mid-winter, ask your spouse if they’d rather blindfold themselves and walk barefoot across that room or spend the next hour shoveling the car out of the driveway.

I’d bet money most would choose the latter without a second thought. And if they don’t, video that walk and send it to me because I want to see it! 😀

Fact 3: You’ll never cherish the words “but you’re beautiful” more than when your six-year-old says them.

Rosie: “Mommy, come watch TV with me!”

Me: (Putting on lip gloss) One sec, baby girl, let me just do this.”

Rosie: “Why?”

Me: “Because I want to be pretty.”

Rosie: (simply) “But you’re beautiful.”

Treasures, I can’t see myself. I don’t know what I look like, and throughout my life, most of the feedback I have received on my appearance has been severely damaging to my self-esteem. To hear these words spoken, so simply and without ulterior motive, from the person I cherish most in this world bypassed all the barriers I’ve thrown up around the topic and struck directly to my heart.

Fact Four: Even when you’re blind, when your child has a nosebleed, you’re going to know it.

My daughter had her first nosebleed at nine months of age. She wasn’t yet walking. Quite frankly, it terrified me. But I knew exactly what it was.

But how?

  1. She began sniffling, and the sound was wet. Not thick, but wet.
  2. When I touched her, I felt the wetness on her face. Warm, thin liquid that grew sticky, then dried fast as it cooled in the air.
  3. I smelled it, and yes, disgusting as this is going to seem to most of you, I touched the tip of my tongue to my finger to confirm. Blood has a unique copper tang to it. That isn’t a myth. Quite frankly, it tastes like it smells. It isn’t pleasant, but I had to use what senses I could to ascertain what was happening to my baby.

Once I knew what was happening, it was a matter of dealing with it. Rosie still has chronic nosebleeds to this day, less so after her recent cauterizations, so I’ve become a pro at doing so. And no, haha, I don’t still taste her blood; It only took once to learn the other signs so I wouldn’t have to go all Dracula on her every time. 😀

Fact Five: Dora the Explorer’s voice is like nails on a chalkboard to many blind parents.

When I tell sighted parents I despise Dora the Explorer, the response I generally get is, “I know. It’s such a stupid show, isn’t it?” (Sorry, Dora fans.)

No. I mean, it’s kind of simple, yes, but it’s geared toward toddlers. The show’s simplicity isn’t what bothers me.

It’s the voice of the main character!!!

Not only does Dora have a very high, nasally voice, but she shouts every line written for her. The actress (or actresses) may have been going for precise speech, but she just ends up yelling into the microphone in a very stilted, high-pitched, nasally fashion. Rosie used to love Dora, and thirty seconds in, I wanted to throw the TV off the nearest skyscraper.

I don’t think sighted people notice this as much, because few people mention it. Perhaps they’re more interested / judgmental of the graphics or the storyline of each show, but I have spoken to blind parents who cringe at the thought of Dora for the exact same reason I do. When your hearing has been trained to be ultra-sensitive, a voice like Dora’s, at the volume she uses coupled with the stilted, over-inflected way she speaks is like listening to a symphony of nails on a score of chalkboards. Insert migraine here.

Fact Six: If you know your child, you will know when they are rolling their eyes at you.

Yes, my Treasures, this is possible. It all boils down to knowing your child. I know my Rosie, and so when I ask her to do something she doesn’t want to do and I receive a silence laden with belligerence or a tsk sound accompanied by an exasperated huff, I know those eyes are rolling heavenward. I also know she’s giving me a dirty look, but I’ll just say that generally goes hand in hand with the eye roll.

I tell her, “Fix that angry face,” and she’s always baffled I’m able to call her out on it. Baby girl, #MommyPowers.

Fact 7: Just because you’re a blind parent doesn’t mean young children will forego leaving obstacles in your path.

While I do believe growing up with a blind parent gives children a unique perspective on disability and capability, children will be children. Awareness and compassion don’t always extend to mindfulness. If you think that because she knows I’m blind, Rosie doesn’t leave an obstacle course in my path every day, you’d sadly be mistaken. Children of blind parents do not develop superpowers of organization. It’s just as much a learned behavior, for them as it is for children of sighted parents.

Fact 8: Being a blind parent doesn’t mean your children stop trying to show you their drawings.

Rosie is a little artist. She has an innate talent for drawing, painting, doing my nails, applying my makeup, ETC. (I don’t ask her to do the latter two; she begs to.) If it involves an artistic component, she’ll own it.

She knows I can’t see, but she still takes great joy in showing me her drawings. She’ll describe them to me, and often I’ll call Aira for an adult description as well. Being blind does not stop me from participating in the joy my daughter takes in her artwork. For those blind parents who cannot squash Aira into their budget, Be My Eyes is another great option.

Fact 9: My daughter can use my iPhone just as well with Voiceover on as she can with it off.

I’ve never tested Rosie to see if she can understand my phone or my computer with her eyes closed, but when it comes to navigating my iPhone, it didn’t take her long to adapt to using it with Voiceover on. It frustrated her in the beginning, but once I taught her how to double tap the option she wanted, she took to it like a pro.

I will turn it off sometimes, when a game she wants to play simply won’t work with it on. But for the most part, if she’s touching my phone, I want to be able to hear what she’s doing, especially if watching Netflix is what she’s using it for. She knows there’s a difference in how the touch screen must be approached with Voiceover on and with it off and adapts seamlessly.

Fact Ten: Some blind parents will only win a genuine game of hide and seek by cheating and making their child giggle.

All right, so I know some of you blind parents probably don’t do this, and in a small apartment, there aren’t all that many hiding spots to use, so I generally know where Rosie’s stashed herself. But put us in a family member’s house and start a game of hide and seek and if I don’t find ways to make that child giggle, Treasures, I am not finding her. She’s very good at standing perfectly, silently still. I know this, and because I don’t want her to develop a knack for hiding from me in a way that uses my lack of vision against me, I turn the entire game into a massive gigglefest.

That wraps it up for today! I hope you all enjoyed!

Remember, if you have any questions or requests for future posts / podcasts / videos, please feel free to tell me either by using this site’s contact form, by sending me an email at SirenaRayLind@gmail.com, or by mentioning me on Twitter with the hashtag #TalkAboutItRena.

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Until next time, my \Treasures, I bid you a fond adieu.

Answering Ten Of Google’s Most searched Questions About Blind People

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What do people do when they don’t know the answer to a question these days?

They ask Google.

My Google Search Terms:

  • Blind people.
  • Questions about blindness.

Some of the asks within the top ten returned results, under the ‘people also ask’ heading of these searches weren’t different questions, merely rephrased ones. Between the two searches, I managed to find some of the top googled questions about blind people, and I’m here to answer them, because as you all know, I am a blind person, and I love to talk. So, let’s do this!

Answering Ten Of Google’s Most Searched Questions About Blind People

In order of how they were found.

1. Do blind people see black?

It’s a very common misconception that individuals who are considered totally blind see only blackness. Some do, but that’s rarer than you might think. The spectrum of visual impairment is huge. You can be considered legally blind and still be able to read print and navigate with no assistance whatsoever, or you can be legally blind without being able to see anything much at all. Most blind people do have some residual sight, be it the ability to see mere light and dark, shades and shadows of things, contrasts and indistinct shapes, etc.

So, the short answer is no. Not all blind people see black. Some do, some see whiteness or a world of fog, but many who consider themselves totally blind are not, in fact, living in darkness.

2. Do blind people dream?

The ability to dream doesn’t come from the eyes, my Treasures. Dreams happen in the mind, and an inability to see does not remove the ability to dream. Some people are more prone to dreams than others; I myself don’t do it often. Or, well… I did read a study once that claimed we all dream at least nine dreams a night, even if we can’t recall them. I’m not certain if that’s true, though it seems logical to me, so I’ll say that it’s rare I remember my dreams, but I suppose I might still have them.

Not only can blind people dream, but some of us do dream in visuals, not merely sound and touch. I’m not sure how common this is, but I find it logical that if someone once possessed the ability to see detail, even if that detail was never 20/20 detail, it might return to them in dreams. In dreams, the mind reigns, and I believe it taps into memories we might not even draw upon while awake.

3. Why do blind people’s eyes move so much?

This condition is called nystagmus, and while it’s common in many blind individuals, it’s not a trait we all share. I’m not going to sit here and pretend to be an ophthalmologist, but from what I understand, it’s more common in blind individuals with degenerative retinal eye conditions like LCA, the condition I possess.

Nystagmus can be caused by many factors, but in the case of most blind individuals, it’s caused by an inability to fixate our vision from an early age. I liken it to a web browser when it’s stuck loading a page. I think there’s an hourglass on the screen that just goes round and round and round. It keeps moving because it can’t find the page. It’s got nothing to lock onto. That’s how my vision is, and my eyes tend to dance more when I’m trying, and failing, to fixate on something.

If a vision expert reads this and wants to correct me because you’re like, ‘oh my god this woman is so far down Wrong Answer Lane it’s scary’, please feel free to set me straight. I don’t want to give away misinformation. Nystagmus has been such an integral part of who I am, like my hair color, that I’ve never thought much about the why of it before.

4. Can a blind person live on their own?

Absolutely. I do. Most of my blind friends do. There are so many devices, applications and services out there now that living alone as a blind person isn’t a hardship. I’ll do a blog post / podcast episode / Youtube video on some of these if you’d like to read / listen / see that.

Even blind people who have no applications, no assistive devices and no paid services can live on their own. We learn to adapt. We invent our systems when the mainstream offerings don’t fit our lifestyles / personalities / budgets. We’ve got this!

5. Can a blind person cry?

Yes. Most of us do still have tear ducts, so shedding tears is very much possible. Now, if someone has gone blind due to eye removal, then no, I don’t think they have the ability to shed tears because their tear ducts are gone.

I want to decipher between crying and shedding tears. If you lose your eyes, while you might not be able to shed tears, I believe that crying is more than that. When I cry, it isn’t all in the eyes. My eyes shed tears, my face scrunches up, my chest heaves. I don’t believe the absence of tear ducts removes the ability to cry. It just removes the ability to shed tears. To many, these two things are synonymous, but I don’t subscribe to that belief. I believe that if you have so much emotion, whether you cry tears or not, letting that emotion out through the act of weeping is a release. It’s the emotion, it’s the sound, it’s the trembling of the shoulders, the heaving of the chest. I don’t believe loss of tear ducts strips a person of the urge to weep.

I do cry tears. If you read this and you haven’t any tear ducts, and I’ve gotten it all wrong, please let me know in the comments below. I can only speak to my own experiences and opinions.

6. Can a blind person work?

Society would have you believe otherwise, but yes, we can work. Around 75 percent of the blind community is unemployed, not because we are incompetent, but because employers are not educated on blindness and believe that because we lack sight, we lack competence. It’s a staggering statistic, and it needs to change. I’ve been rejected from even interviewing many times over the past few months due to my blindness. It’s easier for sighted employers to hire a sighted employee. It doesn’t require any extra time, effort or accommodation, and most employers prefer that.

Blind people can work. There are blind customer service representatives, blind lawyers, blind musicians, blind woodworkers, blind radio hosts, blind mechanics, etc. If you’re willing to find a way to pursue your dream and you persevere, you might just find someone who will give you a chance.

A lot of blind individuals run their own businesses because of the rampant discrimination within society today. I do. I have this speaking business I’m attempting to build, and I also have an Avon business I run on the side. (Yes, this is a shameless self plug! Hahaha!) You can check it out at SirenasAvonEmporium.com if you’d like, and if you find anything you want, enter coupon code ‘welcome10’ at checkout for ten percent off!

All right, shameless plug over. Haha. Honestly, Treasures, many of us have no choice but to go this route, not because we’re incompetent, but because employers are unwilling to be inclusive.

I apologize if that answer felt rather negative. This is a huge sore spot for me right now, though it’s also one of the main reasons why I decided to become a motivational speaker. I didn’t want to just sit around and complain. I wanted to take active steps to eradicate the ignorance society is prone to, most of the time through no fault of their own. It’s still difficult to handle, however. It’s insulting. It’s discouraging. It’s hurtful when all you ever face in the adult world of work is rejection.

7. How do you walk with a blind person?

The short answer is, it depends. If a route is familiar to both sightie and blindie, then the blind person can just walk beside the sighted individual using their cane or dog guide. If the environment being navigated is unfamiliar to the blind person, loud, crowded, open plan, etc., we use a little technique called sighted guide.

I’ll link you over to my heart sister’s blog, because she describes the process far better than I ever could, and because she’s awesome. You should totally subscribe to her. She has a lot of important things to say.

Sighted Guide: What is It and How Does It Work?

8. How do blind people use phones?

I’ll do a podcast and a youtube video on this process one day, but most blind people I know have iPhones. Apple’s built in accessibility is beloved by the blind community. Oh, sure, as a huge company, Apple has its flaws. Its products are hideously expensive and unless blindies have an incredible job, agency assistance or a generous family member, chances of us being able to pay for them in anything but small monthly installments are slim to none.

Still, their screen reader, Voiceover, is fantastic. A blind individual can walk into a store, pick up an Apple product, turn on Voiceover with a few clicks of a button or by asking Siri to do it, and play around with it. We can test the devices just like sighted people. We can purchase one, go home, open the box and set up that device independently, and that kind of freedom is huge.

For the sake of inclusion, I will say that Android has Talkback, and I do know many blind people who use Android phones as well, but I’ve not found Android-based products to be easy. They frustrate me more often than not, but in Android’s defense, it is possible I’ve not used devices that have been optimized for Talkback. To my knowledge, some Android phones and tablets are better with Talkback than others.

I know some Windows phones have software one can purchase and install. Its possible Windows has its own built in accessibility at this point, but I can’t speak to that with any degree of reliability. I don’t know a single person who owns let alone uses a Windows phone. For the blind community, Apple and Android phones are the two most popular.

9. Do people who are blind blink?

Blinking isn’t a conscious choice, my Treasures. To my knowledge, blinking is instinctive because it keeps your eyes both moist and free of harmful or just plain annoying particles. If you’re still a bit skeptical, I charge you to enter a pitch-black room and stare into the darkness. Keep your eyes open. Not wide open, just normally open, and try not to blink. Eventually, you will; it’s nok a thing that is under our control in the end, rather like swallowing.

10. Why do the blind wear dark glasses?

This is another common misconception. Some blind people do wear dark glasses in overly bright situations. I’m one of them. If the sun is beating down relentlessly and I need to walk somewhere, I’ll pop on my sunglasses because my eyes are extremely light sensitive. Without them, I can’t open my eyes in overly bright areas because it’s physically painful to bear the light.

Those of us who wear shades in bright situations don’t generally wear them everywhere. We’re much like sighted people in that way. Sighted people might don their favorite pair of sunglasses when it’s bright out and remove them when they exit out of the sun. I do that, and I know a lot of other blind people who do.

Some blindies do choose to wear glasses day in and day out. I’ve only ever met one person who did this, and she did so because she was self-conscious about the appearance of her eyes after surgery. It is definitely not the norm, and it is far less common than otherwise.

That’s it for questions! I hope this was informative, and if you’d like me to do another People Also Ask post, please let me know in the comments below! And remember, if you have any questions or requests for future posts / podcasts / videos, please feel free to do so either by using this site’s contact form, by sending me an email at SirenaRayLind@gmail.com, or by mentioning me on Twitter with the hashtag #TalkAboutItRena.

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In Other News

I’ve just become a blogger on Success Inspires World and I’m super excited about it. I’ve found so many amazing blogs through that one and I’m honored to be able to join their authors. You should definitely check them out and subscribe; there is something for everyone on that site.

Until next time, my Treasures, I bid you a fond adieu.

The Top Ten Questions I Always Receive As A Blind Parent

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Before diving into today’s post, I wanted to update you beautiful Treasures on how my journey to reach as many of you as possible is going. Right now, my goal is to establish not only this site and blog, but a podcast and Youtube channel as well.

I purchased a lapel microphone from Amazon in hopes that it would heighten the audio quality of on-the-go podcasts and videos, but it turned out to be a flop with my iPhone 6S. I’ll be upgrading my phone, so when my XR arrives, I’ll give it another try before deciding whether to exchange it for another brand. Currently, when I use the microphone to record, there is a persistent buzzing that completely ruins the audio quality of the recording.

My ultimate goal is to purchase an actual camera for filming my Youtube videos, but for now, I’ll need to be content with my iPhone XR, because a good camera is just not in the budget. I’m also on the hunt for video and channel editors in order to make my Youtube channel as visually appealing as possible. I should honestly be hiring a WordPress designer as well to give this site a serious makeover.

I do have a Facebook page for those who may be interested in following me there and of course, I have a Twitter account. I do also have an Instagram account. There isn’t anything up there yet, as I’m going to need visual assistance with it and with the busy week I’ve had, there hasn’t been any time to sit down with Aira and play with it.

So, that’s where everything stands currently. For those of you waiting for the podcast and the Youtube channel, I promise, they will be here. It’s just taking far longer than I’d anticipated for equipment issues to be sorted out / editors to be found.

And now, on to today’s post, because it is a situation, I find myself in quite often.

The Top Ten Questions I Always Receive As A Blind Parent

Parenting is hard. Every mother and father know this. When blindness is added to the equation, floods of questions arise from sighted individuals. For many of them, it’s impossible for them to wrap their minds around the fact that while being a blind parent presents its share of challenges, it really isn’t the constant, horrific struggle they believe it to be. Today, I will share and answer (in no particular order) the top ten questions I always receive as a blind parent.

10. Is your daughter your eyes?

Not at all. My daughter is my child. I didn’t want to have her in order to have a set of working eyes at my side 24/7. She isn’t my guide, and she isn’t my caregiver. She is a typical little girl who is allowed and encouraged to play with her toys, to enjoy her artistic streak with markers, crayons and paint and to just be a little girl.

Now, there are times when I may drop something, and if she’s nearby, I’ll ask her if she can point out the object I dropped if I can’t find it on my own. (That, too, isn’t as difficult as it’s made out to be, and I’ll do a future blog / podcast / video on it.) Sometimes she sees me performing a task and asks if she can help, but if she’s busy doing her own thing, I never tear her away from it to serve as my eyes. She doesn’t guide me in unfamiliar environments. She doesn’t help me match outfits, even her own. She doesn’t help me cook meals or let me know if my makeup is applied well. With the Aira service, the Be My Eyes and The Seeing Ai apps coupled with the other tools in my toolbox, I don’t, and won’t, place my visual needs upon the shoulders of my five-year old. She is just a child, and I want her to enjoy being one.

9. Is your daughter embarrassed by you due to your blindness?

Not yet! Hahaha! It’s possible that during her teenage years when thinking your mother is cool is akin to social suicide, she may be embarrassed by it, but right now, no. She’s actually quite proud of it. She tells all her friends, loves showing off my cane and how I use it (despite my countless reprimands not to play with it, of course) and to her, it is just normal.

She knows my eyes don’t work like the eyes of most other mommies do. She knows I’m different, and in her youthful innocence, acceptance and understanding, she embraces me for it. It’s a beautiful, touching and humbling experience, and I love her even more for her simple pride in my uniqueness.

8. How do you know if your daughter needs a bath if you can’t see whether she’s dirty?

Rosie has designated bath days during the week. She bathes every other day unless she’s gotten sweaty during an extracurricular activity or from merely running around at school. She’s five, so if she’s been playing extra hard, she doesn’t smell like her namesake flower. I can also feel the dirt on her skin if she has embarked upon an adventure through a mud puddle on the playground. Alas, gone are the days of sweet scented, impervious-to-dirt baby skin!

7. How do you pick out your daughter’s clothes if you can’t see them?

I’ll do a Youtube video and a podcast on this specific topic when those are up and running, but in short, I’ve invented my own system because most of the typical methods blindies use weren’t detailed enough for me. Using plastic braille paper, I braille out clothing tags with the color of the clothing article, the design and any distinguishing, interesting or pertinent information about the piece I want to make note of on it. I then use a single hole punch to poke a hole into the edge of the paper after cutting it to size and use a safety pin to affix the tag to the top, dress or bottom that needs the description.

I have had tags rip in the wash, so if I’m able, depending on the garment, I’ll fold the tag over before cutting it to size in order to make it more durable. I also try not to overload the machine, and when I dry her clothes, I don’t dry on high heat or I am pretty sure relentless exposure to it would melt the plastic paper. I have used polycarbonate (I think they were) x-ray film sheets in the past, but they were given to me by a rehabilitation instructor and are way too expensive for me to purchase on my own.

It’s not a perfect system, but it works, so I’ll keep it! In the past, I have used braille color tags on Rose’s clothing, but I found that not only did I tend to run out of tags too often, but I wanted to know more about the article of clothing than just its color.

And, of course, if I lose tags in the wash, there is always Be My Eyes or Aira for identifying the article, so I know which one it is. I can then consult the document on my computer for the tag information I wrote up for it and re-braille said tag. Some articles I can identify by feel as well.

6. How did you change your daughter’s diapers when she was a baby if you couldn’t see what you were doing?

Changing a diaper as a blind parent really isn’t all that difficult. Pee was simpler than poop, obviously, so I’ll just focus on poop. Yay! Everyone’s favorite topic!

It was always easy to tell when Rosie pooped, even before she was eating solid foods. For those who don’t know, breast milk baby poop doesn’t stink nearly as much as baby food poop does. I’ve heard formula poop isn’t all that pleasant, but Rosie drank formula sparingly, so I couldn’t tell you one way or the other.

Anyway, the reason I tell you that is because I didn’t just smell it and go, “Oh, Rosie needs a diaper change.” The diaper got heavy, and it got squishy. Pee diapers will do that too, but not in the same area.

Once she was on the changing table, I would open the diaper and lift Rosie out of it by locking my hand around her ankles as I had been taught and gently maneuvering her. I would have a baby wipe all ready, and I would start in the center, wiping all the poop and pee from that area first before swiftly swapping out the old diaper for the new. That way, any yuck that may have dripped (sorry guys, I know this is gross) would land in the old diaper and not the new one.

Once the old diaper was out of the way, I’d take a new wipe and methodically clean each cheek, then I would feel with my fingers over her bottom to ensure everything was clean. I know to some that’ll seem gross, but she’s my child. It wasn’t a big deal for me. That’s why they invented hand soap. (Okay, so it’s probably not, but you catch my drift.)

So, yeah! That’s how I did it. A lot of it was having a wiping method coupled with just feeling around and ensuring all the pertinent areas were clean to avoid rash and infection. Now, she did still get the occasional diaper rash, but guys, all babies do. I was told by her pediatrician at the time that he saw more rashes on the babies of sighted parents, so, thumbs up to the thoroughness of blindies needing to touch everything. It works.

5. How do you feed your daughter if you can’t see?

Rosie’s five now, so I don’t have to feed her all that often. If she’s being picky and clingy and I need to spoon the last few forkfuls into her mouth, I use the same method I used when she was eating baby food.

I sit in a chair perpendicular to her. After washing my hands thoroughly, I hold the fork or spoon at its base. (This wasn’t necessary when she was an infant, as her spoon was a lot smaller then.) Holding the utensil by the base of the stem gives me more control and ensures I don’t poke her in the eye with the thing.

After loading food onto the fork or spoon (which is simple to do by feeling about with the fork or spoon itself or by using a second utensil on nearly empty plates), I reach for Rosie’s face and find her cheek and jaw with my fingers. Keeping my hand there, I use those reference points to know which way she’s looking and where I need to guide the utensil. It’s very simple.

4. How do you help your daughter with homework if it’s not written in those bumpy dots?

Those bumpy dots are called braille, my Treasures.

I use Aira for this task on the days when Rosie gets homework. A lot of her current homework is merely reading a book her teacher sends home. She memorizes most of these books, but if she finds herself stumped on a word, I have her read me the letters and we sound it out together. She always points to the words as she reads them, so if I am using Aira (though I tend not to for these assignments), they can easily follow along. For words involving color coded word cutouts, Aira is a godsend.

There are days when her father helps her. I never ask him to, but sometimes he just seems to enjoy it. (I’m sure he also does it to assist me if the task is overtly visual, but we don’t see him every day, so that isn’t a failsafe I rely on.)

If Aira ever moves beyond needing us blindies once it’s no longer a startup and becomes a huge moneymaker (many blindness aimed services sadly succumb to this), I will rely more heavily on what I already do with Rosie’s teacher, which is to inquire after the homework assignment for that day. This isn’t entirely necessary right now, but as the homework becomes more and more complicated, communication with teachers is going to become more and more crucial. I do believe Rose is going to receive a ChromeBook next year though, so it’s possible that by the time homework becomes too complicated for communication alone to handle, I’ll be able to use ChromeVox to read the assignments for myself.

3. Can you take your daughter to the park if you can’t see what she’s doing?

I can! As a toddler, it was easy because I was with her every step of the way. Now that she’s older and more independent, I had to come up with another method that wouldn’t embarrass her or treat her like a trained puppy in the way using a whistle to keep in contact with her might.

We use walkie talkies. I have one and Rosie has one. We keep them on the same channel, and while we’re at the park, I periodically check in on her through the walkie. Her walkie talkie is one of the objects she loves most in the world, so I’ve never had an issue with her responding when I request a check in. I will periodically ask her to come give me a hug just so I know she’s still close by, and at times I will use Aira to check in on her as well. And to snap pictures of her because I am obsessed with Aira-taken photos, but that right there deserves a post all its own.

2. How do you take care of your daughter if she falls and gets hurt?

This doesn’t happen as much as you might think. Honestly, I’m surprised at how much Rose just doesn’t skin her knees. She’s still young though, and it’s likely to become more of an issue once she begins riding a bike more regularly.

I would use Aira in this instance for visual feedback, but for a skinned knee, the key is meticulously washed hands, calm and gentle speech and softly feeling my way through the task. The first step of this is to find the edges of the wound in order to gage its size.

If there’s blood, the next step is to stem that flow. I use gauze pads for that, as I think they’re gentler on a wound than paper towels. I’ve never had to deal with a this-needs-stitches deep wound, but I think the process would be a whole lot different if the blood just refused to stop. You know, something along the lines of: step 1. Panic inwardly. Step 2. Rush Rose to urgent care. Step 3: Panic inwardly.

All right, so, once the tide of blood has been stemmed, the next step for me is to flush the wound. Because I can’t see whether dirt, gravel, sand, etc. has settled into it, it’s important to me to ensure that if it has, it’s been removed. If the wound is on her knee, I’ll have Rosie sit on the edge of the bathtub with her feet in said tub. I’ll then take a squeeze bottle of warm water and gently empty it, squeeze by squeeze, over and around the wound several times. I probably overdue it, but I’d rather be thorough than sorry. After this part, of course, more gauze comes out to gently dab the area dry.

Next is to disinfect the wound. No child likes this, because it often involves a chemical that stings, be it hydrogen peroxide or, in extreme cases of please-don’t-hate-me, alcohol pads. (Hey, I had to use an alcohol pad on my finger a few weeks ago and I hated me! That stuff hurts!)

Once the wound has been stemmed, flushed and disinfected, it’s time for every child’s favorite part, the plaster! Rosie’s older now, so she likes to put her plasters on herself, but were she younger, I’d be able to do it myself simply because I’d have just spent five minutes working within the immediate vicinity of the wound, so I’d know exactly where it was.

That’s how I do it. Ask me how I’d handle a broken bone, and I can honestly say I would probably just panic inwardly and rush her to urgent care. And cry. I know there are ways to temporarily set broken bones with makeshift splints, but as of the writing of this post, I have no idea how to do that and I’d never use a broken limb as a guinea pig.

1. Did the hospital call Child Protective Services on you when you had your daughter?

No. I was so lucky. I know this happens to many blind parents, but I had a beautiful birth experience. I visited the hospital beforehand, introduced myself, chatted with the nurses, doctors, even the midwives and let them see me as a person first. My entire team was gunning for my success from the start. I know they watched me to ensure I could competently care for Rosie, but I’d done so much research, it was all a breeze, honestly. I adored them, and in turn, they touched my heart by letting me know how well I was doing. It was a frightening time, and having their support, their reassurance and their praise meant the world to me and really boosted my confidence as a new mother.

So, there you have it, my Treasures! The top ten questions I always receive as a blind parent. There are loads more I don’t always get, and I’ll probably do another post on it one day, but these are query guarantees whenever someone discovers I’m a mother. I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this and that it teaches you something about how blind parents kick tush!

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